Date a girl who reads

By Rosemarie Urquico

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

New Year

I'm doing this. Hell yes.

TAG

Carynn tagged me to answer these questions, so here it goes!:

1. What's the most important thing you learned from your mother?

Patience.  The woman deals with me AND the rest of my family on a daily basis. Also, the ability to apologize and be apologized to all in one.  Usually, in a argument, there are right's and wrong's to each side of things, my mother's ability to allow me to see her side, command an apology, but also be sympathetic and apologize herself has taught me so much in argumentation.  I am and will always be a firm believer in the "don't go to bed mad," idea. I definitely owe my ability to solve problems with other people reasonably to her.

2. How did you/will you know you're with the right one?

I am not sure if there really is an answer to this question until I AM with the right one. I certainly know if I am not with the right "one"... But hey, he may be the right NOW "one" and that's okay too.  Every relationship has a lesson to learn.  I don't believe you meet a person and just KNOW they are your soulmate. It's all about happenstance, the relationship you develop with that person. How they react to your great moments and whoas as well. So much goes into choosing who to spend your life with, I could go on forever. Therefore, this question has no answer, or infinite answers.

3. What has been the most beautiful moment in your life this far?

This might sound so silly, but I have yet to have a monumental moment in my life (such as having a baby or getting married).  So, thus far, the most beautiful moment in my life was last April when I saw Arcade Fire perform at Coachella.  Not only was the band just pure and raw and stunning live, but the energy in the crowd, in the 80,000 people piled around the stage, sweating, breathing, screaming, singing, so excitedly for the love of music was so intense. I cried my eyes out.  A lot had to do with the band and their energy, but the positivity coming from the people surrounding me was so beautiful, it was almost overwhelming. It was as if their endorphins and energy were being passed to me and everyone else around me. We fed off of one another and shared an amazing moment with complete strangers, 79,999 of them in fact.

4. What do you believe is the coolest thing about women?

Our ability to relate to one another. I don't think men experience this in the same way. Sure, they bond, they have "bromances," but they still think it's weird that girls go to the bathroom together, and GUESS WHAT! IT'S NOT. Women like peeing together. They also like sharing clothes and talking about their period and comparing many aspects of their lives and they share a bond so strong, only we can understand it. Much like peeing together.

5. How do you get yourself to feel better when you're having an "ugly day?"

Dress myself in a pretty, girly blouse or dress and wear red lipstick. Red lips always make me feel like a rockstar.

6. What is the most beautiful thing about you?

I have a unique eye color that a lot of people comment on. I recently lost weight and I now have a jaw line, which I love, and I show it off, along with my neck with my short haircut.  It makes me feel feminine and pretty.

7. Who loves you?

I am blessed with a big family and a lot of very loving friends, I feel extremely grateful and only hope I show my love equally to them!!!! <3

8. Why do you keep a blog?

I write in a personal journal as well; let's face it, not EVERYTHING should be out there on the internet. But I like keeping a blog because sometimes, it's nice to know at least someone is reading what you have to say, even if it's nonsense.

9. What song do you sing the loudest to in your car? (Post a youtube video!)

I think you can relate to this one, Carynn.

10. Where do you go when you need to get away?

On a run, usually. If I need to go farther, Northern California or San Diego.

11. When do you think you became a grown-up?

Probably this year, honestly. Especially now that I don't live at home again!

My questions for whoever wants to answer, really... I know a lot of you already have answered some!

1. What did you want to be when you "grew up" and what do you want to do now?

2. A music artist that has changed your life (if any)

3. A book that has changed your life (if any)

4. A person that has changed your life

5. Describe a perfect day.

6. Buried or cremated and why?

7. What do you miss most about being a kid?

8. What do you love most about being an adult?

9. How do you feel about your hometown?

10. Three places you must go to before you die?

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Five Things I Love Friday

Decided to start participating in this business. Knowing my track record, it will be extremely inconsistent. leeeeeeee siggggggggggggh.


1.) Dorky t-shirts.




(I can't find the exact one I have, it's really old school)



I've recently started a collection of nostalgic tee's. So far are the above.

Next on my list:


2.) Six Feet Under:



Such an amazing series.

3.) Ring overload:







4.) Netflix



(especially Instant Watch and Movies You'll Love)

5.) Kombucha

please?

it's beginning to look a lot like summer.

This weekend was so good to me.

Saturday I worked and made amazing tips! then went to the Hangar 24 2nd Anniversary celebration with Mandy. (saw some lovely people there as well)




Rayban table? Except mine were $5 from Forever 21, who's the real winner here?!

Mandy and I topped off the night with a famous bloody mary from the Dirty Bird.

Sunday I ended up randomly upgrading/renewing my Disneyland pass and went with my mom and brother. Hardly any lines, good weather, fun day.


WINNER

and today brie and I went to the beach!
back to work tomorrow, sighhhhh.

(and i'm moving this weekend! yay!)